September 01, 2017
Adoption and Parenting Reads of the Week
Hello there…happy Friday!
How has your week been? We’ve been glued to the news, trying to get as much information about Houston as possible. It’s a devastating situation, and our love and thoughts are with all of those displaced and affected by the storm.
Here are a few reads to take your minds off things…as always, they’re the adoption and parenting reads of the week that compelled, intrigued, and taught us something. We hope you enjoy.
Have a wonderful long weekend, if it is available to you, and we’ll see you next week!
This firefighter delivered a little girl during his shift…the next day she became his daughter!
Are you considering adopting a a second child? That can be a tenuous emotional situation for little ones who are used to being the only child, and these excellent books can help prepare your first-born for what’s to come.
Parenting a child who has dealt with trauma can be an overwhelming, emotional task. Here are some exceedingly helpful tips for navigating this journey, such as, when to remember that it’s not about you. “It is their situation, their feelings, their shame, their anger, their past, their trauma. I know how hard it is not to take it personally. Some days, my humanness gets the better of me and I take it to heart. When that happens, I either fall apart emotionally or I respond to the comments thrown at me (even though I know that it just escalates things). Neither of these responses helps the situation and I do know that, but it is impossible not to be affected by it.”
What happens with your child’s severe childhood trauma is misdiagnosed (and misunderstood) as ADHD?
How does birth order affect your child’s personality?
Are you taking your child’s attachment issues personally? It can be difficult not to, and there is often a great deal of shame and loneliness involved. This excellent piece can help guide you through that. “Often we are ashamed to admit that our child is not attaching to us. We may feel judgment from others who do not understand the cycle of bonding or the lengths we are going through to repair years of past damage and trauma. When we are living in a cycle of shame and disappointment as parents we are further hindering our own ability to attach. Here are a few things you can do to put shame behind you and stop taking your child’s attachment disorder personally.”