October 06, 2017
Adoption and Parenting Reads of the Week
Hi dear friends. Big hugs to you this week. It’s been a tough one.
Give yourself some time for relaxation and self-care and hold tight the people you love.
Here are a few of our favorite reads of the week.
See you Monday <3.
You can’t love too much. Attachment doesn’t slow growth. It fuels it. “Whenever children can take for granted their attachment needs will be met, they will no longer be preoccupied with pursuing us. In other words, when you can count on your caretaker, you no longer need to cling to them. Kids who are clinging to us when they are no longer preschoolers may be doing so out of insecurity. It is security in the attachment relationship that frees children and allows them to let go of us; attachment isn’t the enemy of maturity but insecure relationships will be.”
A good grandparent may be more life-changing than you think.
Two Asian-American woman discuss what it’s like to be transracial adoptees.
The lonely battle of raising a child with special needs. “If you’re raising a child with special needs you probably identify with that scenario. If your child suffers from a disorder like FASD (Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder), or Reactive Attachment Disorder, you especially identify. You might even say, “Yep..been there, done that!” You understand the defeat of trying to get your child to cooperate in the middle of a tantrum. You’ve experienced the struggle of being in a public place while your child acts out, throws a tantrum, screams obscenities, or destroys personal property.”
This woman was surprised on her birthday by the son she placed for adoption 18 years earlier. So amazing.
Today.com is looking for YOUR adoption story!
Is it ethical to spread the word about an unvaccinated child? “Having children can be scary. Parental love, like all love, makes you vulnerable, because you can be profoundly threatened by harm to someone else. Unlike most other loves, however, parental love also involves overwhelming responsibility. Your young children are enormously dependent on you. In light of these intersecting conditions, it’s not surprising that parents can be panicked by the possibility that they will fail as caretakers…”