September 29, 2018
Adoption and Parenting Reads of the Week
Happy Saturday!
We hope you had a really nice week. We’re planning on enjoying the cool fall weekend with our family, as we ring in October.
For now, we’re sharing some of our favorite reads of the week, and we hope you enjoy!
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At the end of the day, it’s all about the relationship. “When push comes to shove in the adoption narrative; through all of our trauma training, and attachment understanding, research and understanding (which are all highly valuable), it is still the relationship that matters most. Children who have experienced major trauma in the past need to know they have parents who will never give up, even through the excruciating moments. Despite testing, and therapy, and training, the most important thing you and I can do as we parent these precious children, is work to connect with them day in and day out. This is the key to becoming an effective parent. Even when our children fight the very arms that love them.”
Three ways to avoid being offensive when talking about adoption.
How to find a good mental health counselor.
What happens when you’re ready to adopt but your partner isn’t?
“The minute we got that call, I knew you were our daughter.”
Empty nests are overrated, these parents say. Their biological children were long grown and out of the house when they took in two foster girls. “But I finally understood that it was these girls — these brave, beautiful girls — who were taking the bigger gamble. Risking further pain and fresh abandonment by starting over with us. With all they had been through, they were still willing to trust. To walk into our home. To fall into our open arms with no guarantee.”
Easy family dinners for parents (or people!) who don’t necessarily love cooking, but want to be able to throw a quick homemade meal together after work.
A beautiful piece about a father’s perspective on miscarriage, and why we should have space for more dads to talk about their experiences.