August 13, 2014

Adoption News Roundup

A brave, beautiful article by a girl who was the only child of seven placed for adoption by her birth mother. She shares her moments dealing with devastating rejection and the ultimate conclusion that this was indeed a blessing. A great article to pass along to your child if they’re struggling with feelings of rejection (only if you feel it would resonate — we don’t want to impose single experiences as a generalization for how our children should feel.)

We often read and hear open adoption stories from the adoptive family’s perspective, but it is so vital to give voice and thought to what the birth mother experiences as well. This birth mother sheds so much insight on the open adoption process from the birth mother’s perspective. We are so thankful for those who choose to share their stories with us, and the greater adoption community!

Christian Adoption Consultants shared an enlightening article on the nature of adoption conversations between couples—they don’t often happen when both partners are on the same page, and that can certainly make them difficult. They offer some important things to keep in mind, that might help make those conversations go more smoothly.

Pass this one around…five things NOT to say when someone says, “We’re Adopting.” Which of these have you heard…?

And in the same vein…what sorts of adoption words can’t you stand? This adoptee, adoptive mother and friend to birth mothers hates “infertiles,” among many other insensitive choices.

It looks like a lot of people are getting questions or comments about the validity of their family or adoption choices this week, because another adoptive mother has posted an article entitled, “We are a real family, thank you very much.” This is another word we can’t stand—the use of real as an implication that someone in the adoption process is not a “real” something. We’re all flesh, blood and apart of the triad in some way or another…that’s pretty real, isn’t it?