November 20, 2019

Surviving The Holidays While Waiting To Adopt

While holidays are usually presented as a time of fun and laughter, it’s not the case for everyone. For those struggling, or in limbo, the holidays can elicit feelings of grief, sadness, and stress. Families waiting to adopt may experience a particular sense of loss as they negotiate the holiday and their pending adoption. If you and your family find yourself struggling this holiday season, you’re not alone. There are ways to celebrate while honoring your journey. 

It is easy to become consumed by the adoption process, but everyone needs a break. Shake things up and get back into activities that bring you joy and self-care. Make a conscious effort to shift your attention to things and people that make you feel restored and happy. You are more than your adoption journey, and you deserve a full life, too. When you take care of yourself, you are supporting a happier, healthier outlook on life, and a more grounded presence for your adoption experience. 

Connect with others who are having similar experiences, share your story, and enjoy the healing effects of community. Not only does this help combat loneliness, but you can receive valuable advice and guidance from other families about how they are navigating their experience. Be vocal about your feelings, let people know when you need their support. It’s okay to feel sad or anxious, and it’s okay to lean on people for camaraderie. 

Giving back always feels good, and there are so many ways to do this during the holiday season. You can adopt a family by providing Christmas gifts or a nice meal, donate toys to a shelter or church, or volunteer for an organization that means something to you. Doing something kind for others is one of the best ways to make yourself feel better. If you don’t have the time or resources to make a big gesture or a financial investment, even a smile or helping hand can go a long way. 

Take inventory of everything in your life that makes you happy. This is all a part of your journey towards creating your forever family. Don’t lose sight of yourself in this process. A new year will bring all new possibilities.